I adhere to a Christian worldview. This worldview states that there are morally right and wrong things to do. One of these wrong things is a homosexual lifestyle. A morally right thing is to speak with fellow believers regarding morally wrong things and to challenge each other to change (i.e. move towards morally right things).
We (in the general Christian sense) have a responsibility to other Christians to confront and encourage in growth and right living. The question I struggle with is how, when, and in what ways do I encourage non-Christian followers (or even Christian followers) in right living? More specifically, how do I show the good work done in me to my friends who are gay/lesbian.
The gay/lesbian lifestyle is not foreign to me. I have a good friend I have known since college who is gay (though they did not identify with that lifestyle until after college). I have a cousin who is a lesbian. I worked for a gay "couple" (it isn't that I do not acknowledge their living arrangement, but I am positively unsure if they were a couple or merely "friends with benefits") for several years. I have worked beside, traveled with, and am related to gay/lesbian individuals. They have been a part of my life and influenced me in several areas (part of my work ethic and attention to detail comes from lessons I learned while working with them).
I have never felt abused or taken advantaged of by them. While I may disagree with how they ran a business I have never felt any animosity towards them. This is my history with the gay/lesbian culture and lifestyle.
The lifestyle simply does not make sense to me. From a scientific point of view it is not possible for homosexual entities to procreate. An hypothesis could be made that there have not been enough generations of homosexual attempts to breed and thus evolution will take place, it just hasn't yet. (Though according to scientists mankind has been on Earth for over 250,000 years and it would not be out of the realm of possibility to assume/conclude that homosexual individuals have been around that long.)
Another hypothesis is that this requires a child born with both sex organs, then choosing (or having the choice determined for them by guardians) and then being able to procreate. The problem is that this would require a single sex organ reproducing with a member of the opposite sex. It just does not work naturally and would require outside interference in order for it to work and continue the existence of the species. From a scientific standpoint I do not see homosexuality working.
The core of my struggles appears to lie with whether homosexuality is a choice or a factor of biology. My worldview leans towards homosexuality being a choice. This choice is not biological, but personal and is up to the individual to choose differently. In my opinion the "evidence" does not support a biological basis and because of that I lean towards a choice.
It is not a clear cut choice though. It is a grey area full of history and culture that a person is raised in. Something I do agree with is that individuals can find themselves more comfortable or aligning closer with one sex or the other.
For example a male child that had a strong motherly influence (hard, aggressive, masculine, etc.). They identify traditional maternal attributes in men. Add to this an insecurity around women and you have a male who seeks female attributes in men and is more comfortable socializing with men. Why wouldn't they be attracted to men if they are more comfortable and can find the type of companionship they desire in the same sex? It does not make it biological (though it may appear that way), but is a result of the environment they were raised in. It is not their fault, but they do have a choice.
All this could be moot though. The Christian worldview also has a concept of a fallen nature. In essence this world was created perfect (without fault). Sin entered this world and made it corrupt. This corruption could (and may very likely) extend to biology and the traditional heterosexual relationship. In this case a person could be biologically drawn to the same sex and have little choice...
... And that hurts because I am finding that love is a wonderful thing. The thought that someone would be denied the ability to love as I love is very hurtful. The thought that God would allow someone to have to live a life where they are constantly drawn to relationships with the opposite sex knowing that it is wrong "in the eyes of God" is troublesome.
I do believe in a God who is capable of miracles and this seems to be only way to hope. (I freely admit I do not see all avenues and God is much wiser than me.)
